It is an exciting adventure to the call of “looking for Mr. Right.” Just as women want to find someone who will live up to their rom-com-generated expectations, men also want the same thing. I am old and old-fashioned. I grew up in the 60s when there were still lots of gentlemen behaving gentlemanly. I love the values fashioned within my heart through living in a time when people feared God. Now, I hope you did not think you would find me writing a post that did not include God. I desire that whatever I write, someone will want to know God more, and love Him more deeply. Women, the phrase “looking for Mr. Right” is wrong, wrong, wrong. After many failed relationships, I finally figured out why it was wrong. I was doing the looking instead of allowing God to send the man He would want to look for me. I have learned that once a woman catches a man’s eye, she will eventually capture his heart.

I wish I had learned this earlier in life, but now that I have, I can help other young women learn this same thing earlier and prevent much heartache later. Several verses in the Bible support this manner of relationship building. The first verse is in Genesis 2:24, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” and Proverbs 18:12, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 31:10 says, “An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.” So we see that it is not the husband who is to be sought out by the woman, but the woman by the man. When a woman pursues a man who has not approached her first, she will always try to live up to his expectations. However, if a man sets his eyes on the woman God leads him to, he has already decided that the woman meets his expectations.  

Women have a hard time finding Mr. Right because they should not be the ones looking in the first place. God brought Eve to Adam; He did not bring Adam to Eve. God’s creation story gives us extraordinary wisdom about relationships and how to relate to each other correctly. He created relationships and even told Adam that being alone was not good for man. I have many single sisters who have not remarried and have been single for many years. But God did not design man this way. God created us to complement man and be a life companion that would assist him in whatever God desires for him to do. Eve did not care too much for that supporting role either, she wanted to be the leader, and that has caused us women great pain ever since. A man shows excellent honor to a woman when he chooses her to join him in his life’s journey through marriage. When a man ask a woman to be his wife, he is making so many honorable statements about her. We raise our sons to be good husbands to the woman they decide to marry, and we raise our daughters to be good mothers and housewives to the man who may ask them to marry. Don’t let the devil’s deception ruin your opportunity to be Ms. Right. Marriage should be a lifelong journey of wonderful experiences and precious memories.

God never meant marriage to be a place of abuse, oppression, neglect, and emotional turmoil. Sometimes, Mr. Wrong may have his eyes upon a woman, and the red flags will soon tell that. Just because a man may desire to pursue a woman does not mean he has the right motives and intentions. That takes wisdom and discernment—something we all can obtain by reading and studying God’s Word. Finding the right person does not mean that you will find a perfect person, as we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Finding the right person is finding the person who brings out the best in us and helps us become more like Christ. Finding the right person is finding someone who can love us unconditionally without preconceived motives. The right person is the one who will believe in you and have your back no matter what. That person always thinks of your relationship as teamwork, where both give 100 percent. So instead of failing to find Mr. Right, commit yourself to becoming Mrs. Right, and when he finds you, you will inspire him to become Mr. Right. Be Blessed!